The "V" word.

In many spiritual circles, the word "victim" is considered a bad word. We're often told that by acknowledging that we have been victimized we are giving someone else power, or somehow not taking accountability for how we create our reality.

I would like to offer a different perspective.

Eventually, inevitably, all of us will become victim to something or someone in life. That is simply a part of being a human on this little planet called Earth and existing in a realm with duality: dark and light, good and evil.

Yes - it is true that we are creating our reality all of the time. But so is everyone else in the world. All of our individual realties stacked on top of each other create our collective reality. And other individuals and groups in our collective reality make choices that can impact us personally, and sometimes negatively.

How do we heal?

Healing is about the actions we take to recover and restore ourselves to wholeness when something bad happens to us. Healing is an extremely personal journey that can only happen when we give ourselves the space and time to fully process.

This includes feeling the hurt, anger, and disappointment from knowing that you are a victim. Ideally, this stage is temporary, though everyone's personal path to healing is unique and individual. There is no set timeline for moving through this stage.

This stage may be uncomfortable.

There's grief in this stage.

There's sadness here.

But as they say, "You have to feel it, to heal it."

The risk of NOT acknowledging when you've been victimized

There are a few common pitfalls that you can stumble into if you don't allow yourself to feel and heal.

For instance, many people will hold onto that pain and create giant "protective" walls around themselves, not letting anyone in and also not allowing their true self "out." These are people who don't feel safe being open and authentic with others out of fear that that information could be used to hurt them. They won't let anyone too close which in turn cuts them off from new, enjoyable, and fun experiences.

Another, more dangerous path for the unhealed victim is to take on the "opposite" role and become a victimizer. For those who don't allow themselves the space to process and feel their feelings, these folks can easily continue to operate from their pain body and become a predator or miscreant. For someone unhealed, this can feel like a "victory" or like they are "in control" when all that's being done is passing off pain to others in a misguided, subconscious attempt to rid themselves of the hurt that haunts them. It can feel like "balance" but all they're doing is just swinging the pendulum all the way the other way.

True balance comes from acknowledging your pain, loving yourself, and going down the path of healing. Then you can step back into a place of power and neutrality, experiencing peace, stability, and calm.

So yes, it is okay to be a victim, but it's also okay to heal and become a survivor, a champion, a fighter, a warrior.

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